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Self-Trust: Overcoming Fear

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Marilyn Schwader
http://www.clarityofvision.com

Self-Trust: Overcoming Fear
What is the underlying cause of all fear? It's that you
can't handle whatever life puts in your path. It's that
simple. If you believe you can deal with anything that
comes along, fear fades to the background. The greater your
trust in your ability to manage what comes your way, the
less fear you will experience. What that translates to is
that the better you feel about yourself, the easier it is
to face your fears and move through them. The result is
that you don't have to control anything in your external
world to overcome fear! Instead, look at where the lack of
trust in yourself originates: the beliefs you have adopted
from others in your life, and from your own past
experiences.

It's a good thing to know how something works and why.
However, what's more important than knowing where your lack
of trust came from is knowing how to develop more
confidence in handling anything that comes your way. What
we want to focus on right now is how to gain more courage
so that choosing from a place of fear is no longer
necessary.

When there is fear keeping you from making changes in your
life, your body will have the feeling of being closed
because you are listening to the parasitic mind and its
story, instead of trusting and staying open to the
possibilities.

How do you know when your fear is in control? Look at your
life. If there's struggle, there's fear at some level. You
might have to peel back layers of belief to discover the
source of your worry, but trust us, fear is the root of all
your conflicts. The struggle comes when you are not truly
living in the moment, when you are caught up in the past or
the future. Either you are looking back with regret and
concern about something you did, or you are looking forward
with anxiety about what might happen in the future. Either
way you are not present. When you are not in the moment,
you are by default stuck in a place of fear. This keeps you
out of the flow of life, resulting in struggle and lack,
and oftentimes paralysis.

So, what can you do to regain trust in your self? You build
trust in small cycles: Belief causes Action causes Results;
Bigger Belief causes Bigger Action with Bigger Results.
First you have an idea, then you create a plan of action,
then you take the first step. Everything else will be
dependent on each step, and that's all you have to focus on
to be truly in the moment. When something works, take
another step. If you have a setback, learn from what didn't
work and try it a different way the next time. Every time
you give up, you lose more of your self-trust. It's not the
boogieman out there that has a death-grip on your reality;
it's the parasitic mind and the fear it creates that is in
control.

Even if you can't remember a recent time of facing your
fears, you have a lot of experience in this area. As an
infant and young child, your willingness to face your fears
was necessary to your very survival. Have you ever observed
a child learning to walk? They fall frequently. Do they
curl up in a ball and decide not to try again? No! They try
it again and again until they finally take that first step.
Then you can't slow them down. When they start moving
faster, they usually fall down again. This is how each one
of us learned to walk, then to run. It's the same as you
take steps to face your fears. Win or lose, taking action
is a success. With each success, you will begin to taste
what it feels like to have more and more self-confidence.
There will be times when what you have to do will be
extremely uncomfortable. And sometimes what you do won't
work. When that happens, pick yourself up, dust yourself
off, and try again, just like when you were a child.

Fear is an innate part of our survival. In early human
development it was necessary to keep from being swallowed
by saber-tooth tigers and other dangers. This instinctual
fear still keeps us safe from real harm, arising during
in-the-moment reactions. That's a good thing. However, when
fear is used by the parasitic mind as a way to control your
actions, it becomes the main armor of protection blocking
your energy centers. If you pay attention, you can feel its
relentless grip on your body, tensing your muscles if the
fear is slight, or causing illness and distress when it is
more chronic or more pronounced. Your body is always the
best indicator for the level of fear you are allowing to
come into your life. Pay attention to its messages and you
will begin to see how much fear you are carrying.

As your confidence grows, you will notice that fear never
really goes away completely, because each time you expand
your zone of comfort, you will face new uncertainty. As
long as you continue to grow, you will continue to feel
fear. As you stretch yourself, taking new risks, you learn
to stop waiting for the fear to go away before you take
chances. You know what it feels like, you accept that the
fear exists, and you know you can move through it.

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Marilyn Schwader uses a unique blend of technology,
e-commerce, communication, and spirituality to help her
writing coaching clients create and market their work. To
find more of her tips, resources, and a schedule of her
webinars, teleclasses, and retreats, visit
http://www.clarityofvision.com

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